Introductory Post

Hello, fellow Warcraft addicts. :)

I’d like to introduce myself here, and tell you a bit of what I plan on writing about. I’m a girl gamer woman gamer (let’s just say younger than Madonna, but probably older than your Mom. But cuter.), originally from the US but now permanently resident in the UK. I’m a web developer and artist. I have a level 60 warlock on Aggramar EU, and am a member of a serious raiding guild.

Or I was, until this weekend…but I’ll save guild drama for later.

I have a fascination with virtual worlds and virtual online personas, and plan on writing a lot about that and how those concepts relate to Warcraft.

So, on to the guild drama: I /gquit this weekend.

In every guild there is a certain jerks-to-cool people ratio, and in this group like most, it’s pretty heavily weighted on the cool people side. But there are days when you fall on the other side, and gods forbid that happens on a day when you have just had too much.

This was a stupid argument was about gear. I know that fights over drops account for a lot of guild drama, and most PUG drama, but I’ve never personally been involved in one – I tend not to roll on anything unless it’s blatantly obvious that I need it and it’s miles better than what I have. This involved a ZG drop of a sword that no one else wanted (so it would have been DE’d), was marginally better than what I had (more magical damage, plus mana regen, but it didn’t have the 1% crit strike bonus). So I rolled on it. Comments were made over TS, which upset me, and then someone took it as their responsibility to start whispering me about it, which had me in tears; I completed the run, and then after the end boss I threw my toys out of the pram quite publicly.

And then I /gquit on my main. Logged out, logged in each of my alts and quit on those as well. And then (shaking and crying) went and got drunk. It was a slash-and-burn.

Yes, I’m well aware that it’s only a game. But the amount of time you spend in a serious raiding guild is equivalent to the amount of time that you would spend on a second (part-time) job. It’s a serious chunk out of anyone’s life, and you have to be very committed to do it. And it’s just not worth it with the wrong people.

So, just a game…but why do I still feel so depressed and adrift? Has anyone else ever done something similar in game, just destroyed everything in a fit of pique and pride? And what happened afterwards?

7 Comments so far

  1. Sabocat (unregistered) on August 1st, 2006 @ 5:56 am

    I had one of those blow outs with the guild and I was GM. It wasn’t over loot it was over guild direction. We had a casual guild and the raiders were trying to stage a Coup de tête.
    The frustration got to the point I almost just disbanded the guild.
    it was one of the angriest moments of my life.
    But instead I bowed out gracefully and handed it over to the raiders. /gquitting all my toons out of it.
    Yup it’s ONLY a game but we are also ONLY human.

  2. Ian (unregistered) on August 1st, 2006 @ 8:09 am

    My guild and I are having similar issues.

    I’m a rogue. A dagger rogue specifically. We’re just mastering ZG and Molten Core now and are making opening forays into AQ and BWL.

    When the guild was first formed, all the rogues sat down and agreed that we wouldn’t roll/bid on loot that we weren’t specced for. It’s all well and good that you CAN re-spec for a specific weapon, but once you open that door, it’s a free for all and no one wins that way.

    So we agreed: only roll on your current spec. And last night we downed Hakkar (for only the 3rd or 4th time, I believe) and the Fang of the Faceless dropped.

    Which for me, given that my main attack is Ambush/Backstab, would be a HUGE upgrade.

    Once the Raid Leader posted it, I started cheering, as the other rogues were sword rogues and I knew I’d get it.

    And one of the sword rogues rolled on it.

    He was shouted down, thankfully, but this has happened at least once before in my presence (some Aged Core Leather Gloves) and I hate having to cause a stink about it with the guild, but you didn’t see me rolling on all the Zulian Slicers, Warblades of the Hakkari, etc that have dropped.

    Thing is: I know I’ve generated some bad blood because of it, and I don’t know what to do.

    (Incidentally, sabocat – the word nerd in me wants to correct you, sorry. It’s coup d’etat)

  3. Andrea (unregistered) on August 1st, 2006 @ 9:30 am

    Always glad to see more girl gamers! I play on US-Bronzebeard in a horde guild with only girl gamers. If there’s one thing to say about guild loot rolls so far, it is that people are very careful to the point of over-polite, having to be convinced to roll for something that would be an upgrade.

    Of course, with only ten level 60s, we’re only starting to forage into areas where loot becomes more impressive and the color purple wakes the greed in people.

  4. Ravven (unregistered) on August 1st, 2006 @ 10:43 pm

    Thanks for the comments! Last night, I rejoined the guild. I’d really missed all of the guild banter, and feeling a part of things. So I posted a “sorry for being a complete tit” post on the forums, and then came back in. But….tbh? It will be some time before I have the confidence to roll on anything for a while.

  5. Liber (unregistered) on August 2nd, 2006 @ 2:24 am

    I’ve quit the same guild twice now…but not for the reasons you have. Whenever you are involved in something socially & it goes wrong, it will be upsetting so don’t feel bad.

  6. Cilasq (unregistered) on August 2nd, 2006 @ 1:59 pm


    Coup de tête = headbutt (Zinedine Zidane style)
    Coup d’état = the kind of coup you’re talking about

    plz forgive my pedantry

  7. Sabocat (unregistered) on August 3rd, 2006 @ 8:56 am


    If any of you could even grasp what I typed. It’s a friggin’ miracle. One mistake w00t! I’m famous on many servers for my indeciferable strings of lottres. My half-arsed typing actually forced me to quit a national news editing job. My wife has bought me the sponge bob typing tutor now though so I’m getting better.

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